It’s okay to not be okay. I wanted to write this post because I didn’t want people to read my blog and think that I believe life should be all about sunshine, roses and rainbows and that we should somehow all be experiencing extreme joy every day and anything less is not good enough. No.
Negative emotions are essential for our mental well-being and overall happiness.
Positive emotions are obviously crucial for us to lead a brighter life but we all have days when we don’t feel great. Life cruelly throws us into the rubbish dump sometimes and it’s important to understand the complexities that comes with being human – that hard times are inevitable as well as the happy times. It helps us make sense of life’s ups and downs and evaluate our experiences.
Scientifically, negative emotions can be vital clues to a health issue, a bad relationship or something in our life that requires our attention. The importance is to notice these emotions and not judge ourselves for them. They are there to help us and the key is to notice them and realign accordingly.
Prolonged negative emotions are telling us that we need to do something – something is not right and essentially needs fixing whether it’s something deep-rooted like a bad past experience we haven’t dealt with or something simple like taking steps to find a new job if you’re unhappy with your current one.
So never suppress negative emotions. Make sure you feel them and identify what they are trying to tell you without rushing to change your emotional state. Confide in other people, exercise, breathe slowly and deeply, and accept it. If the discomfort lingers then consider taking steps to change your circumstances or confronting the person/situation that is causing you the negative feelings.
Sometimes we just get used to feeling negatively and it becomes an everyday habit. It’s important to notice the difference between that and a more serious problem. We tend to accept our ongoing negative mindset because that is what we’ve got used to and it’s in this instance that we need to make a shift and to simply change that to a more positive perspective.
For times that are more trying, pulling on your positive resources can work wonders and can get you out of a funk but be kind to yourself and don’t force it. Let yourself ride it out and don’t suppress anything. Sometimes it’ll pass quickly and other times it’ll take much longer. The key is being able to see your problems with greater clarity and start taking those steps down the path to recovery 🙂