We Can’t Fully Be Happy Unless We Are Truly Our Authentic Selves

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It’s probably become a bit of a cliché to say that you should be yourself no matter what. But authenticity is a major factor in achieving a more peaceful, happy way of life.

We all have our little insecurities and hang ups whether it’s the way we look, certain parts of our personalities, how we sound or the way we walk. We often harbour beliefs about ourselves that can stop us showing others how we really are but by doing this and not embracing ourselves warts and all, we are shutting ourselves off from a lot of happiness potential.

Being yourself attracts more authentic people. When we are our true selves we are putting ourselves out there – we are being vulnerable and doing it anyway. We attract what we give out so by being as authentic as we can will attract others who are being authentic.

We will attract the right kind of people because they are seeing who we really are. By not fully embracing ourselves we can’t be fully embraced by others and the relationships and friendships that will bring us the happiness we need.

It will also deter the people who won’t fit into our lives and this isn’t a bad thing. Never worry that by being yourself others will see you and all the faults that you see in yourself – these are only a figment of our paranoid imaginations anyway!

Loving yourself is the best thing you can do. To be your authentic self you need to learn how to love yourself. Some people may need more work on this than others depending on the false beliefs and perspectives they have of themselves but you have no idea how many of the negative problems that occur in your life can be resolved by just seeing how amazing you are.

You don’t have to be successful, rich, give all your money to charity and help everyone but yourself until you’re stretched and exhausted, to be an amazing person. You are unique and wonderful just for the sheer fact you are alive and the sooner you realise this the better 😉

Learning not to be a people pleaser. How many times do we say yes to people out of politeness or not wanting to let them down? While this is good sometimes, you are putting yourself at risk of lowering your authenticity every time. You are going against what you truly want to do or say which only keeps up the pretence and illusion and may even cause you stress in the process.

Learn to say no and love and respect yourself more to not chase after people in order to please them. That doesn’t mean being rude and offhand – it’s about respecting your boundaries and asking others to respect them too.

Make peace with how your life is in the present moment. We’re all guilty of chasing after the happiness that will come when something happens and a lot of the time that something either never comes or doesn’t bring us the happiness we craved.

To be authentic means to live in the present moment; to appreciate right now and not be constantly living in the past or the future. We are not the person we were in the past nor are we the person we will be in the future. Embrace how you are right this second, go with the flow of how you’re changing and adapting to life’s experiences.

Don’t be who other people want you to be. Society has managed to inflict rules upon us that cause us to act, speak and often be people we feel others think we should be. By bowing down to a way of life that doesn’t truly match our inner selves and passions, we are shutting off our full potential.

Life is too short to live according to how others feel we should. Most of the time the beliefs that others have are from their own limited idea of the world and it’s these limitations that have the potential to stop you from showing yourself as you really are and reigning in your happiness in the process.

Don’t compare yourself to others. As I’ve mentioned in a previous blog post, comparisons are only detrimental to you. You can’t compare yourself to someone else – a completely different person with different perspectives, beliefs, thoughts and limitations. Doing this damages your ability to embrace who you are in the present moment and making peace with your own unique journey in life.

So remember, for your happiness to truly flourish you must make yourself your number one priority. This isn’t about being selfish, it’s about going to the source and creating the means to living a life you want. Loving yourself and being authentic can only affect others around you in a happy and positive way so it’s the least selfish thing you can do 🙂

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7 thoughts on “We Can’t Fully Be Happy Unless We Are Truly Our Authentic Selves

    1. Jenny M

      Thank you so much! 🙂 I finished your AMAZING book the other day and I honestly think it is so wonderful and empowering. So thorough, thought-provoking and well-written. I really felt connected to what you were saying and loved your perspectives. You should be hugely proud of yourself haha! I’ve written a 5* review for you on Amazon 😉

      Anyone reading this and want some sound guidance on self-worth and becoming empowered, please go and check out The Heiress Project: https://www.amazon.com/Heiress-Project-Reclaiming-Worthiness-Creating/dp/1536881341/ref=pd_rhf_cr_p_img_1?ie=UTF8&psc=1&refRID=1B3JRM9PCNC3PAVZTCWP

      🙂

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      1. Marie Therese

        Oh my goodness! Thank YOU, Jenny. I’m so glad you liked it and that you connected to it. That means the world to me, really. And I really appreciate you leaving a review on Amazon. Thank you, thank you! ❤

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  1. Pete

    I’d add a further point Jenny, that we need to act according to our values. It’s not easy to establish our values but if we think about what we would like people to say about us when we die, then it shows what are really the important things to us in life. If we act now according to those important things, then we’ll come closer to being our authentic selves. Hope that helps. 😃

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