How often do we just accept our perspectives on things?
Our perspectives come from our beliefs – the beliefs that are formed from the people around us or the experiences we’ve had. But we hang on to these perspectives for dear life believing that how we see things is the correct way.
I think if we want to be happy we need to question the way we choose to see the world around us.
Everything in this world is neutral. Every situation, circumstance, object or person is neutral and it’s only the label we put on these that cause them to mean something to us.
I can’t remember where I read this but there’s a good analogy about a rainy day. A rainy day is not good or bad. A couple on their wedding day will see a rainy day as bad yet a farmer wanting his crops watered will see a rainy day as good. Neither is a right or wrong perspective but you can guarantee which set of people will be experiencing a more stressful day as a result!
The importance of this is that it can be applied to anything in our own life. We can choose to see a positive perspective or a negative one. We are the ones doing the labelling and whatever we choose will also condition and train our mind over time to see these different situations and circumstances in the same way.
Once we label something it has the tendency to stick. If you always associate a rainy day as ‘bad’ then there’s more chance of you always associating a rainy day as a negative in the future.
So how can we use this to increase happiness in our lives? Every time you choose to label something happening to you as ‘negative’, stop and question yourself. Is it really negative? Could it just be the way I’m choosing to look at it? How could I spin it to a positive? Even doing this in a small way will condition your mind to see the good in even dire situations and you will start to see more positivity around you and feel it within yourself.
Once we do this we can also start to understand other people in a more empathetic way. We can realise others are seeing things and reacting to things based on their limiting beliefs, their current life circumstance, thoughts they’ve created from other people, or the culture and society they live in. Understanding this means we can detach ourselves from getting upset or offended so easily by others.
So remember, everything is neutral and you are the one giving it meaning. To live a happier life, start to see things in a more positive light and question why you are giving certain negative meanings to things. It can be a good step towards leading that happier life 🙂