The new year often brings the idea of new beginnings. We set big goals for ourselves and strive to become a better, more rounded person. Maybe your goal is to lose weight, finding that special someone, get married and have kids, finally working hard towards your dream career.
But while these big life-changing goals may seem the epitome of happiness when they do happen, it’ll mean nothing if we haven’t first learnt to ‘be’.
New Year’s resolutions tend to centre around action. What can we do to change our lives? What actions do we need to take in order to achieve them? Even if we manage to keep going through the year and attain a big life goal, the danger is that we soon realise the happiness it brings is very short-lived. We suddenly realise that we relied on these goals for happiness but they themselves can’t fully provide it for us – in other words it’s very conditional living.
True happiness comes within ourselves and learning to live in the now.
It’s learning to just ‘be’ in the moment but many of us find it hard to grasp this concept only because we’ve learnt that happiness comes in the form of achieving things. We can’t quite appreciate the beauty and magic of quietening our mind from all the chatter and be happy with our current surroundings and where we are.
So whether it’s through meditation, being more intentional with gratitude and appreciation, taking a walk and really taking in the world around you, observing your thoughts or questioning your reactions and emotions to things, make your new year’s intention to have a ‘to-be’ list rather than a ‘to-do’ list.
This doesn’t mean letting go of your big life goals but rather gently set an intention alongside these to appreciate where you are now and being okay with it. The power in this will be apparent when the big stuff eventually happens and all the feelings of happiness that comes with them won’t be short-lived but instead content and constant 🙂
Happy New Year! 🙂