Life is full of challenges and each one of us deals with them in our own way. The majority of us can get hit to the ground and find it hard to pick ourselves up. The idea of happiness can feel a lifetime away during these times so is there a better way of looking and responding to challenges that could get us back on track more quickly?
Challenges allow us to grow and expand. There are some that make us feel unlucky, hard done by or dejected, but ultimately every challenge is there to help us grow positively in some way. It could be happening in order to get something out of our way, to make us realise something that we can apply to the rest of our lives moving forward, it could be to move us to new circumstances with new people. Whatever it is, there’s usually a purpose within it that isn’t clear to us in the moment.
What purpose are you giving to your current challenge?
The challenge you’re facing is neutral. As humans, we have a need to give everything a meaning – and it’s either a positive charge or a negative charge. Our challenges inherently cause us to focus on the negative so we choose to think we’re being punished or not worthy or beat ourselves up for making a ‘wrong decision’.
So the purpose we give that challenge penetrates us on a deep emotional level.
It can shape our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us in a negative way.
So what can we do differently? Ideally you can shift the way you look at a certain challenge in your life to a more positive one and start to question why you think it’s happening. Training the way we look at challenges helps the brain see beyond the short term negative impact challenges can seem to have. Just like our muscles need tension and stress to grow, so does our human spirit and the challenges that we face are opportunities for us to expand and learn.
Changing your perspective
What we focus on the most is what we’ll see the most. This is why it’s so important to choose to see the good in something rather than the bad. Believe it or not, there’s good in everything but for a lot of us (especially when we’re slap bang in the middle of it) it can be hard to hear.
Instead of asking why is this happening to me? or what have I done to deserve this? Ask yourself what is this showing me? How can I grow from this experience? It’s important to anchor yourself and believe there must be some good in this situation even if it’s hard to see in the moment. How many times have you gone through something that felt so awful at the time but with hindsight you realise the message, growth and positivity that came out of it? Choose to try to feel this ‘hindsight’ even before you figure out its ultimate meaning in your life. This will create an inner strength.
By doing this in any challenge you face, you’re connecting to the inner strength that is found in every one of us and is the foundation to the way we forge through life.
You will learn to move through the challenge with more self-empowerment knowing that everything is happening for good. We all have a choice on how much charge and emotion we put into seemingly negative situations so choose the positive. Happiness isn’t always a constant but it’s always there waiting for us to choose it. Train yourself in allowing the idea that the world we live in isn’t as negative as it appears to be and your challenge is ultimately there to serve you.
If anything, this can give you a little sense of relief and open up the crack of hopefulness which is the start of getting back on track 🙂