5 Mindsets To Adopt To Create A Happier Daily Life


I think my main message through writing this blog is to bring home the idea that habits are the key to happiness. It’s often something we hear over and over again especially if we’re trying so hard to find and create that sense of ease and happiness in our lives. But sometimes in our frustration it can land on deaf ears or these habits start to become so cliché.

Starting the intention to change can be the hardest step. We’re comfortable in our routine habits, mindsets and beliefs yet we rarely see the connection between each one. Each one is feeding the other and so creating our lives.

It really is starting with little habit changes and realising how we’re choosing to show up in the world through the way we think.

This week I thought I’d post a Lifehack article I wrote a while ago highlighting the common negative thinking we’ve been conditioning ourselves towards and the need to drop them 🙂

If You Understand These 5 Rules in Psychology, You Can Live a Much Easier Life


Limiting Negative Language to Achieve More Happiness in Your Life


How often do you really listen to what you say?

The language we choose to use is a really good indication of where our mindsets are. Many of us believe we’re a positive person but is that reflected in what you say to others or how you talk about yourself?

It’s really important to be mindful of what we say as most of the time we aren’t fully aware of how we come across or the beliefs we put forward. It can sometimes be very subtle but the one we can probably all relate to is complaining. Do you complain a lot? Why? Question yourself, why do you have this belief? Is it limiting?

You may have heard about the rainy day analogy. A rainy day can mean something completely different to two different people depending on their perspective yet they’re still experiencing the same thing. What this shows is that we have a choice. If you find yourself complaining about a rainy day, can you see a different perspective? Can you think more about the plants that need the rain or be appreciative of your warm, waterproof clothing instead of cursing the possibility of the rain ruining your day?

And what about the negative language we use with ourselves? We often say things to ourselves that we’d never say to a friend and yet we are more willing to talk negatively or berate our being. We think it’s harmless. It’s habitual. We may not even realise we’re doing it. But over time it becomes extremely detrimental to our happiness. After all, if we’re not able to show love to ourselves then no one else truly will.

When you describe yourself to someone are you putting yourself down a lot or building yourself up positively? Be mindful next time you’re in conversation with someone – it may surprise you.

Do you tell yourself you’re a failure, not good enough or not worthy enough? Or do you tell yourself you’re successful, lovable, kind and lovely? To a lot of us this feels unnatural because we’re led to believe it’s egotistical and that we shouldn’t think highly of ourselves. But our self-beliefs shape our thoughts and how we move through the world. Therefore, it’s logical that thinking negatively about ourselves will ultimately affect our happiness levels.

Remember, what we think is a choice. Positive thoughts and words bring more of the same into our lives and the same goes with negative thoughts and words. It’s up to you which side of the spectrum you want to lean towards.

If you speak negatively about things, positive people will naturally be repelled from you while negative people will be drawn to you. Which would you prefer?

It’s all about awareness and intent. Most of us really aren’t aware of the things we say because we’re so used to thinking negatively about ourselves. These negative beliefs  may have come from past experiences or what our parents or peers said to us but they are untrue. For everyone.

Start noticing your level of self-love and the way you look at the world through the daily language you use. Let it be an indicator of where you’re at. This will be a powerful start in turning your awareness towards more positive words and therefore experiences in your life 🙂

Looking At Life Challenges In A Different Way


Life is full of challenges and each one of us deals with them in our own way. The majority of us can get hit to the ground and find it hard to pick ourselves up. The idea of happiness can feel a lifetime away during these times so is there a better way of looking and responding to challenges that could get us back on track more quickly?

Challenges allow us to grow and expand. There are some that make us feel unlucky, hard done by or dejected, but ultimately every challenge is there to help us grow positively in some way. It could be happening in order to get something out of our way, to make us realise something that we can apply to the rest of our lives moving forward, it could be to move us to new circumstances with new people. Whatever it is, there’s usually a purpose within it that isn’t clear to us in the moment.

What purpose are you giving to your current challenge?

The challenge you’re facing is neutral. As humans, we have a need to give everything a meaning – and it’s either a positive charge or a negative charge. Our challenges inherently cause us to focus on the negative so we choose to think we’re being punished or not worthy or beat ourselves up for making a ‘wrong decision’.

So the purpose we give that challenge penetrates us on a deep emotional level.

It can shape our beliefs about ourselves and the world around us in a negative way.

So what can we do differently? Ideally you can shift the way you look at a certain challenge in your life to a more positive one and start to question why you think it’s happening. Training the way we look at challenges helps the brain see beyond the short term negative impact challenges can seem to have. Just like our muscles need tension and stress to grow, so does our human spirit and the challenges that we face are opportunities for us to expand and learn.

Changing your perspective

What we focus on the most is what we’ll see the most. This is why it’s so important to choose to see the good in something rather than the bad. Believe it or not, there’s good in everything but for a lot of us (especially when we’re slap bang in the middle of it) it can be hard to hear.

Instead of asking why is this happening to me? or what have I done to deserve this? Ask yourself what is this showing me? How can I grow from this experience? It’s important to anchor yourself and believe there must be some good in this situation even if it’s hard to see in the moment. How many times have you gone through something that felt so awful at the time but with hindsight you realise the message, growth and positivity that came out of it? Choose to try to feel this ‘hindsight’ even before you figure out its ultimate meaning in your life. This will create an inner strength.

By doing this in any challenge you face, you’re connecting to the inner strength that is found in every one of us and is the foundation to the way we forge through life.

You will learn to move through the challenge with more self-empowerment knowing that everything is happening for good. We all have a choice on how much charge and emotion we put into seemingly negative situations so choose the positive. Happiness isn’t always a constant but it’s always there waiting for us to choose it. Train yourself in allowing the idea that the world we live in isn’t as negative as it appears to be and your challenge is ultimately there to serve you.

If anything, this can give you a little sense of relief and open up the crack of hopefulness which is the start of getting back on track 🙂

Happiness in 2018: Set the Intention to Just ‘Be’


The new year often brings the idea of new beginnings. We set big goals for ourselves and strive to become a better, more rounded person. Maybe your goal is to lose weight, finding that special someone, get married and have kids, finally working hard towards your dream career.

But while these big life-changing goals may seem the epitome of happiness when they do happen, it’ll mean nothing if we haven’t first learnt to ‘be’.

New Year’s resolutions tend to centre around action. What can we do to change our lives? What actions do we need to take in order to achieve them? Even if we manage to keep going through the year and attain a big life goal, the danger is that we soon realise the happiness it brings is very short-lived. We suddenly realise that we relied on these goals for happiness but they themselves can’t fully provide it for us – in other words it’s very conditional living.

True happiness comes within ourselves and learning to live in the now.

It’s learning to just ‘be’ in the moment but many of us find it hard to grasp this concept only because we’ve learnt that happiness comes in the form of achieving things. We can’t quite appreciate the beauty and magic of quietening our mind from all the chatter and be happy with our current surroundings and where we are.

So whether it’s through meditation, being more intentional with gratitude and appreciation, taking a walk and really taking in the world around you, observing your thoughts or questioning your reactions and emotions to things, make your new year’s intention to have a ‘to-be’ list rather than a ‘to-do’ list.

This doesn’t mean letting go of your big life goals but rather gently set an intention alongside these to appreciate where you are now and being okay with it. The power in this will be apparent when the big stuff eventually happens and all the feelings of happiness that comes with them won’t be short-lived but instead content and constant 🙂

Happy New Year! 🙂

The Importance of Combining Exercise with Mindfulness


Mindfulness is an important part of our happiness journey. Not only does it help us to focus on what’s going on around us, but through exercise it can encourage us to listen to our body. Other than meditation, when was the last time you focused on how your body feels? Usually this only happens when we’re in pain and the pain is drawing attention to what our body is saying to us. But it’s equally important to listen to our body when we’re feeling pain-free and complete.

Exercise presents a great opportunity to practice being mindful and embrace the moment. Many of us have an exercise regime in order to keep up our positive physical health, many of us don’t exercise at all because we have a belief that exercise isn’t for us. So in either case the act of exercising never becomes synonymous with really being in the present moment but rather a means to an end or something we want to avoid.

However, mindfulness helps us connect with our bodies in the present moment when we exercise because exercise creates physical changes we can pay attention to. Sports like running and swimming are good for focusing on the breath because you’re more aware of it than usual. Your movements are more exaggerated which gives another important focal point for the mind.

Even when we’re struggling with exercise and want the session to be over we can realise that experiencing these thoughts and these hard moments and knowing it will pass is what mindfulness is all about. It can make you realise that you should make the most of this present moment which is the basis of meditation – to observe your thoughts rather than get overwhelmed by them and focus on the breath or the sensations and movements of the body.

Of course, by doing this you are actually training your mind to cope better with every day life and anything that it throws at you allowing you to be more open-minded about what you can achieve. Being more mindful during exercise, for example, allows you to think more about how far to push your body and know when to ease up helping you experience exercise in a more fun and rewarding way.

I do a lot of swimming and I find swimming length after length gives me a wonderful opportunity to focus on the movements of my whole body and the feel of the water flowing past me. I also find that by doing this, I naturally start feeling gratitude that my body is capable of making these movements over and over again and that I’m able to easily enjoy each moment.

So don’t always think of exercise as a means to an end. All forms of exercise will keep a healthy, happy mind and body but take it a step further and really embrace the present moment whether you’re really feeling the flow or finding it a struggle. Focus your mind on the breath and the movements to really take full advantage of your exercise experience 🙂


How To Create Happiness Through Writing Stuff Down


There’s immense power in writing things down. It’s very easy to think about our hopes and dreams, or positive and negative emotions but in the act of writing them down, our brain is forced to process the feelings more intentionally. It’s this process that can generate a type of therapy or create a sense of excitement within us that helps towards that all-important happiness.

There are several ways the power of writing things down can increase our happiness.

Keeping a Gratitude Journal – The combination of writing and feeling gratitude is extremely powerful. The act of doing this allows us to think back through our day in a positive way. Our brains are wired to look for the negative in order to survive and keep us safe so we need to make that extra effort to think about the positive aspects. Physically writing our blessings down means you’re able to look back over what you’ve written and further make you realise the wonderful things currently in your life. So each night write out the best thing that happened to you that day (even if it’s as simple as a free coffee or a smile from a stranger!) and then list out 10 more things you were grateful for happening. Keep this up and you will feel it getting easier and easier to find things to be grateful for 🙂

Lists – We can often feel overwhelmed with the amount of things we need to do each day so writing these tasks down is a wonderful way of organising them in our mind. Crossing each one off helps the feeling of productivity and raises your feel-good worthy vibes.

Writing Out Affirmations – Each morning get out a pen and paper and write out a few meaningful affirmations and use them as your mantras throughout the day: I am worthy, I am loved, I am a successful person, I am capable of anything! Keep them in your wallet, write them on your mirror, or stick them on a post-it note to act as reminders. Take the time to really think about what you need to hear from yourself – it may feel corny as you write them out, but they feed you that little bit of positive reinforcement throughout your day and slowly creates a more positive mindset from within rather than validation from other people.

Keep a Daily Journal – You might associate journals with teenage girls but journal-keeping has come a long way since the 80s! Writing down how you feel is a good therapy session. If it’s negative it can help get it in the open because physically writing it out and re-reading can give you further perspective on the subject. It allows you to really reflect on why you feel that way and find a way to change it. You can also just use a journal to set out your positive intentions for the day and helps keep tabs on your productivity keeping you aligned with your daily, weekly, monthly and yearly goals. I personally use The Daily Greatness Journal but even just getting a plain notebook and doing it ad hoc is still very powerful.

Writing things down helps with awareness. Most of the time we’re on autopilot and don’t structure our daily routines. This means we aren’t always being mindful of how we live our lives. By writing things down, we can start to understand how we think, why we think the things we do, challenge these perspectives, know ourselves better and see the world in a more positive light. So get out that pen and paper and harness the power of writing things out 🙂



10 Things Dogs Can Teach Us About Happiness

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There’s a lot that man’s best friend can teach us. Not only are they loyal companions but they have the ability to be mindful in the moment. This means less overthinking, less negative emotions and more appreciation for the world around them.

Here are 10 things we can learn from our canine companions!

  1. Enjoy the Present Moment. Dog’s are simple creatures which is probably the main secret to living a happy life. They’re able to focus on one thing at a time and enjoy it whether it’s a nap, eating their dinner or their morning walk. They can go from sleeping one minute to barking at the postman the next showing the ability to let go and move on from each moment and being present in each one of them.
  2. Don’t Hold Grudges and Love Unconditionally. As humans, it’s easy to hold grudges and judge others for their actions but this only comes from our fragile ego. Dogs, however, even when they’re left for a few hours, don’t hold it against you. Instead they’re more focused on being happy to be reunited with wagging tail and nothing but love.
  3. Celebrate Success. Acknowledging our successes is really important to leading a happy life and dogs do this all the time. Doing what their owner tells them to and getting a treat for it is their way of celebrating a positive success.
  4. Be Excited About the Little Things As Much As The Big Things. A walk, a new person, a bit of chicken, seeing you come home, a different smell – it’s an endless attitude of gratitude in a dog’s mind. Being thankful and finding the wonder in the small things is what happiness is all about.
  5. Trust. Dogs put their entire trust and faith in us to look after them and they do it with endless love. There’s no doubt or judgement in our capabilities which is something many of us struggle to do with each other. Having a little more faith in others builds a better connection and less resentment in relationships.
  6. They Show Themselves Compassion. When dogs are tired they’ll sleep. This may seem obvious but how many of us will work ourselves to exhaustion not looking after our health and minds. Dogs know what’s best for them and they do it because they instinctively rarely go against their needs for optimum survival.
  7. Don’t Judge Others. It doesn’t matter who you are, what your skin colour is, your religion or what job you have (unless maybe you’re a vet!) a dog doesn’t care or judge. They see everyone as the same. Dogs feed off peoples’ energy just like us but humans sometimes let preconceived ideas get in the way too. We all need to be more like a dog and be more accepting.
  8. Mindfulness. Dogs are so in tune to everything around them whether it’s a leaf falling or a squirrel running across the garden. They are aware and mindful of what’s going on and usually without the overthinking and hundreds of distractions we have. Mindfulness is another important key to being present in the moment and appreciating one thing at a time.
  9. They Enjoy The Journey. We’ve all been told happiness is the journey not the destination and dogs are a great example of this. They don’t tell themselves that they’ll be happy once they get to the park. They are enjoying the car ride there, the getting ready to go, the anticipation of knowing the park will eventually turn up. They enjoy each moment right up until they see that park through the car window. This is what a happy life is all about.
  10. Don’t Take Things So Seriously. Dogs live like every day is their last. They will have fun, spend hours playing with a stick or an old tennis ball – they aren’t worrying about what they’ll be doing tomorrow. Fun is the aim of their life.

We can’t all live a dog’s life but we can learn from how they choose to perceive the world around them and inject more of these principles into our attitude and daily habits. Next time you see a dog, let it be a reminder to you to be more like them!

The 7 Deadly Happiness Sins: What We Should Avoid


I was a bit hesitant on writing a post about the things people do wrong when it comes to happiness – I’d rather write about the mindsets and perspectives we should adopt to live a happier life – but I think sometimes it can be easier to spot what we aren’t quite doing rather than be told what we should be doing! 🙂

As humans, we can sometimes get into habits that we pick up from an early age or we can be easily influenced by what our parents think or thought, what society thinks or just general opinions that people we come across have.

1. Devaluing happiness

There’re so many articles about how to be happy that a lot of it has become quite cliché. We can roll our eyes and dismiss it all. But in doing this we can devalue the potential of creating happiness in our lives. Our ideas of happiness can be misunderstood – happiness comes in the form of the big achievements rather than in the walk to work or the conversation we had with the postman or neighbour. By doing this, we’re never really that happy and we devalue happiness in the process. Never find yourself in a position where you feel happiness is overrated and you should just accept the crap going on in your life. This will just keep you from experiencing the joy of happiness altogether.

2. The need to be superior to others

How many times have you argued with someone and you have the overwhelming urge to be right. You absolutely have to prove that they’re wrong! This comes from a place of superiority. Accept that everyone essentially thinks they’re right. Accept that what you think isn’t ‘better’ than someone else. Everyone has different perspectives based on their life experiences – let it go. Recognising that trying to prove your point is essentially, well, pointless! It only generates feelings of frustration and lessens your happiness.

3. The need to be loved

We all want to be loved but the problem comes when we feel we need to be loved. This indicates a lack of self-love within ourselves because if we truly think we’re awesome there is no need to be loved because you already feel it. If you feel this need to be loved you may want to look at possible low self-worth issues or the idea that you’re not enough unless you’re loved by people. Happiness comes from within and this starts with the love you have for yourself.

4. Being overly controlling

The need to control, again, comes from a lack of self-worth. You feel that things must be a certain way for you to be happy. But true happiness comes when you release control and be happy with whatever the outcome will be. Once you do this you instantly feel more at peace and realise by controlling outside factors you were actually restricting your own ability to be happy.

5. Lack of trust in others

We do live in a untrusting society but this doesn’t mean we have to buy into being untrusting ourselves. The majority of people are honest and sincere at their core. Believing otherwise stops you from experiencing that trust and also stops the other person experiencing being trusted. It’s a wonderful feeling to choose to believe you can rely on other people to do something without worrying. Learn to trust and your happiness will grow.

6. Lack of trust in life

Faith is massive when it comes to happiness and by ‘faith’ I’m not necessarily talking in a religious sense. Trusting the direction of your life and believing whatever happens is for your higher good in the long run will give you that sense of peace that comes with being happy. The problem comes when we spend precious time worrying that our life isn’t how it should be or we must be doing something wrong every time something ‘seemingly’ goes bad. Relax and trust it’s ultimately all good.

7. Ignoring your inner-energy

We are extremely powerful beings. Our thoughts shape our beliefs which, in turn, shape our lives. We have the ability to change how we think. We have the ability to change our beliefs and our mindsets. We have gut feelings that steer us in the right direction if only we wouldn’t ignore them. Dismissing our inner-energy and walking around disconnected with it, is a sure-fire way to know you’re not reaching your full happiness potential. Meditating even for a few minutes a day can help you connect with your own unlimited supply of happiness. Everything you need to be happy is found within you.



Why Having A Pet Can Bring You Happiness


If you’re an animal lover then having a pet is a great addition to your life. I’m a self-confessed dog lover. I love everything about them. I love their endless ability to be happy no matter what’s going on and the abundance of love they seem to dish out at every opportunity. I really think we can learn a lot from their unconditional state.

But what are the roles that animals play in our happiness? Pets in general can supply us with an amazing amount of happiness and here are some ways that the furry addition to your life can enhance your overall well-being.

They stop us from being lazy. Especially if you have a dog, getting outside and walking is a great benefit. Studies have shown that walking with a dog makes us walk 28% faster than if we were walking with a person resulting in dog walkers having higher fitness levels.

They make us healthier. Aside from keeping us active, exposure to animals at an early age can lower the risk of developing allergies. Petting animals produces a higher level of antibodies in our systems that fight off allergies later in life.

They help to heal us. Having a well-loved pet can lower stress levels resulting in less cardiovascular problems and lowering blood pressure caused by stress. Even people who have had heart attacks have been known to recover quicker when owning and interacting with a pet.

The ability to unite. Having pets diffuses tension resulting in more unification within squabbling families. People tend to laugh more and be more playful around animals and therefore creates a more harmonious environment.

They provide emotional benefits. It’s no secret that having a companion helps relieve loneliness and elevates our mood. Pet owners have found to be more physically fit, less lonely, suffer less from depression, are more conscientious and less preoccupied than non-pet owners. They also trigger a larger release of oxytocin which we all know is the feel-good hormone and therefore leads to a larger sense of happiness and well-being.

Any dog or cat owner can tell you how happy their pet makes them. There’s something about coming home to an excited wagging tail and the feeling of something wanting to genuinely spend time with you. There are countless benefits to having a furry friend in our life.




Happiness Is All About Our Perspective


How often do we just accept our perspectives on things?

Our perspectives come from our beliefs – the beliefs that are formed from the people around us or the experiences we’ve had. But we hang on to these perspectives for dear life believing that how we see things is the correct way.

I think if we want to be happy we need to question the way we choose to see the world around us.

Everything in this world is neutral. Every situation, circumstance, object or person is neutral and it’s only the label we put on these that cause them to mean something to us.

I can’t remember where I read this but there’s a good analogy about a rainy day. A rainy day is not good or bad. A couple on their wedding day will see a rainy day as bad yet a farmer wanting his crops watered will see a rainy day as good. Neither is a right or wrong perspective but you can guarantee which set of people will be experiencing a more stressful day as a result!

The importance of this is that it can be applied to anything in our own life. We can choose to see a positive perspective or a negative one. We are the ones doing the labelling and whatever we choose will also condition and train our mind over time to see these different situations and circumstances in the same way.

Once we label something it has the tendency to stick. If you always associate a rainy day as ‘bad’ then there’s more chance of you always associating a rainy day as a negative in the future.

So how can we use this to increase happiness in our lives? Every time you choose to label something happening to you as ‘negative’, stop and question yourself. Is it really negative? Could it just be the way I’m choosing to look at it? How could I spin it to a positive? Even doing this in a small way will condition your mind to see the good in even dire situations and you will start to see more positivity around you and feel it within yourself.


Once we do this we can also start to understand other people in a more empathetic way. We can realise others are seeing things and reacting to things based on their limiting beliefs, their current life circumstance, thoughts they’ve created from other people, or the culture and society they live in. Understanding this means we can detach ourselves from getting upset or offended so easily by others.

So remember, everything is neutral and you are the one giving it meaning. To live a happier life, start to see things in a more positive light and question why you are giving certain negative meanings to things. It can be a good step towards leading that happier life 🙂